Warm Marriage = Cold Facts 

I opened instagram today and it didn't take long to find woman who are struggling through divorce, unhappy husbands, and people touting that single life is better. Divorce rate statistics show that 50% of marriages end in divorce. Popular culture and literature have us believing that marriage is a failing institution. From these things many would believe that marriage isn't worth it, but the cold facts and studies show that marriage is worth it. 

Studies indicate that marriage is beneficial! Married adults are healthier, they live longer than those who are not married, have greater life satisfaction, and lower risk of depression. Economic stability is a huge benefit of marriage. There are many who argue that these things aren't true, that there are too many factors in a marriage and life. One study conducted across 17 nations found that there is a big link between marital happiness and marital status indicating that married individuals are happier than singles, divorced, or widowed counterparts in most countries (Hawkins et al., 2012). 

This doesn't mean that marriage is always blissful, or that many who are married haven't contemplated divorce. There are times when divorce is necessary. However if you can work together through the hard times and the times were your level of satisfaction in marriage may fluctuate chances are you will get to a place where you feel happiness and contentment. The studies show that marriage is a long term investment, and hard work and effort can lead to a place of fulfillment. 

One theme in today's generation is that if marriage doesn't work maybe co-habitation will. Many young couples are choosing to "test-drive" marriage before they decide to make a full commitment, thinking it will benefit them when they do decide to get married. They don't realize that the statistics for divorce are actually higher if they have lived together before marriage, especially if they haven't already committed to getting married. 

Although the world might have us thinking that marriage is not the right move, statistics continue to show that it is the most beneficial union for couples and families. 




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